Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Tommy Virgo, and Iamp;#8217;ve been to a lot of weddings. A LOT. More than I can possibly count. I do know that Iamp;#8217;ve been a groomsman at least 10 times, and a Best Man almost as many. Most of my BM experiences came in the past 5 years, and at the time of this writing, I have just finished being a BM for my brother for the second time in a month (donamp;#8217;t ask), and anticipate being called up for duty for other friends at least once, possibly twice, before year-end. With all of my inadvertent experience as both a passive and active part of countless weddings, Iamp;#8217;ve seen my share of stuff, much of which I will cover in this book. Iamp;#8217;ve also been the cause of some of the stuff Iamp;#8217;ve seen. Iamp;#8217;ve not only been a damn good Best Man, Iamp;#8217;ve also had the unfortunate experience of truly sucking at the job. Man, Iamp;#8217;ve made my share of mistakes. Iamp;#8217;ve made toasts that have offended everyone, and Iamp;#8217;ve gotten toasted enough to ruin this oh-so-special of days for all those around me. Iamp;#8217;ve got proof in the form of video, and youamp;#8217;ll see it all. And thatamp;#8217;s good. For you. Iamp;#8217;ve been a Best Man enough times that I am now an expert at it. Iamp;#8217;d put amp;#8220;BMamp;#8221; after my name on my business card, but, considering that I work as a medical practitioner, that might be misinterpreted by anyone with a history of gastrointestinal issues. People search me out to get my advice on how to do it, and do it well. Iamp;#8217;m constantly being asked for help by friends, friends-of-friends, and people I donamp;#8217;t even know.What does it mean to be an expert? It means that I have made enough mistakes, seen enough action on the BM front lines, that I have wisdom. Wisdom that Iamp;#8217;ve translated into process. There is a process to the experience of being a Best Man. A code of conduct, and a process. We Virgos pride ourselves on codifying things, breaking down difficult tasks into bite-sized pieces. Virgos are organized. And the first rule of having fun as a Best Man is to get organized. Once you have things organized, you are free to relax and have fun. Because, in the final analysis, fun is what this BM stuff is all about.