It's All Your Fault!

This book is for those who find themselves in the middle of a bitter divorce or separation, and who are looking for ways to deal with their situations in a positive manner. We can't control when things fall apart but, with a little insight, we can find ways to process separations respectfully by communicating constructively. It's All Your Fault is a practical and accessible book, offering invaluable insights and the practical tools to understand and identify how to...
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This book is for those who find themselves in the middle of a bitter divorce or separation, and who are looking for ways to deal with their situations in a positive manner. We can't control when things fall apart but, with a little insight, we can find ways to process separations respectfully by communicating constructively.
It's All Your Fault is a practical and accessible book, offering invaluable insights and the practical tools to understand and identify how to communicate productively.
Traumatic times can bring about incomprehensible behavior stemming from hurt, betrayal and anger. These reactions were implanted in us in the first seven years of our lives. We built up core survival strategies that may have been helpful back then but have now become counterproductive. When those strategies get in the way, our children and future relationships suffer.
Willemijn van Strien is a communications professional who works with a team of specialists (lawyers, finance professionals, and coaches) to guide clients peacefully to a resolution through their divorces.
This book arose from years of practical experience and the desire to help as many people as possible. It's All Your Fault helps readers reflect and understand their life circumstances, their behaviors, how they engage with other people, and how they can restructure their communications to something more productive for them and their children.
There are practical exercises and a comprehensive but clearly written theoretical framework based on the psychological model Constellations. Each person has a role to play within a family situation. When these roles slip, behaviors are affected. Once you understand the roles and their needs, you can begin to understand the behavior and offer help. You can also help your children unburden themselves by stepping into your rightful role as the one in charge.
These techniques are transferable to other group situations too. By learning to communicate constructively, you take responsibility for the actions you control, your own. This is an empowering perspective, which promotes positive relationships and mental health.