The Peace Initiative

How to have those hard conversations that can save a relationship from shallowness. Practical and user-friendly training in why we need to have those difficult discussions. Memorable models and tools to help us pursue true peace, biblical SHALOM, in our relationships. THE PEACE INITIATIVE RESOURCE MANUAL helps us with all these things.Written for those who like reading and those who do not. The training pages are short, usually only one page. Even these have a sidebar summary to help...
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How to have those hard conversations that can save a relationship from shallowness. Practical and user-friendly training in why we need to have those difficult discussions. Memorable models and tools to help us pursue true peace, biblical SHALOM, in our relationships. THE PEACE INITIATIVE RESOURCE MANUAL helps us with all these things.Written for those who like reading and those who do not. The training pages are short, usually only one page. Even these have a sidebar summary to help you find what you are looking for. Self-assessments and case studies are included to help promote personal reflection and application. A step-by-step triage plan equips the potential mediator while modeling the implementation of the principles.Based on over 30 years of experience, the resource manual helps integrate biblical principles with daily realities. There are five core commitments that so few make, keeping them from becoming biblical peacemakers. This part of the broader PEACE INTITATIVE helps us with the biblical foundations for these commitments and the practical tools to help us actually live them out.Contents:INTRODUCTIONHAVE WE EXPERIENCED SHALOM?CORE COMMITMENTSPURSUE PEACEESCALATE WITH OTHERSACQUIRE THE JUDGMENT OF CHARITYCHOOSE TRUE FORGIVENESSEXPECT ACCOUNTABILITYGRAPHIC: DETOURS & BACKTRACKINGBIBLICAL FOUNDATIONSPURSUE PEACEESCALATE WITH OTHERSACQUIRE THE JUDGMENT OF CHARITYCHOOSE TRUE FORGIVENESSEXPECT ACCOUNTABILITYONE-PAGE TRAINING SHEETSJUDGMENT OF CHARITYJUDGMENT OF CHARITY VERSUS THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBTE.L.M.CARE-FRONTING1 CORINTHIANS 13 LOVEHOW WE TREAT JESUSCHANGING ME - INFLUENCING YOUUNDERSTANDING, NOT EXCUSINGCAN TRUST BE REBUILT WITHOUT THE JUDGMENT OF CHARITY?MUST WE TRI? MORE THAN ONCE?WHEN TO JUDGEMOTIVES & METHODSSPEAK THE TRUTH IN LOVECOMMUNICATION FILTERSMIND-READING & PIGEON-HOLINGSTOP, LOOK, AND LISTENGOSSIPHEARSAYREPENTANCE VERSUS FRUITS OF REPENTANCECYCLE OF CONFLICTINCREASING TENSION'S IMPACTS through the stages of conflictGRAPHIC: IMPACTS OF THE CYCLESOMETHING'S WRONG Stage One in the Cycle of ConflictWHAT'S WRONG Stage Two in the Cycle of ConflictYOU'RE WRONG Stage Three in the Cycle of ConflictLET'S FIGHT! Stage Four in the Cycle of ConflictWHO WON? Stage Five in the Cycle of ConflictGRAPHIC: CYCLE OF CONFLICT WITH LABELSINJUSTICE GATHERINGTHE DEATH SPIRAL and the Cycle of ConflictTHE DEATH SPIRAL A Self-AssessmentTWO TENSIONS OF CONFLICTFIVE STYLES OF CONFLICT RESOLUTIONTURTLESTEDDY BEARSSHARKSFOXESOWLSASSESSING MY CONFLICT STYLESSCORING YOUR CONFLICT STYLES ASSESSMENTWHAT WE CONTROL MOST IN CONFLICTTHE TROUBLE WITH TURTLESTHE TROUBLE WITH TEDDY BEARSTHE TROUBLE WITH SHARKSTHE TROUBLE WITH FOXESTHE BENEFITS OF OWLS"MELT-MOLD-MAKE FIRM"TWO HANDS OF FORGIVENESS: GOD AND PEOPLETWO HANDS OF FORGIVENESS: DIAGRAMMEDTWO HANDS OF FORGIVENESS: APPLIED TO OUR RELATIONSHIPSTHE MAP OF FORGIVENESS: LEFT SIDETHE MAP OF FORGIVENESS: RIGHT SIDEFORGIVENESS: A DECISION AND A PROCESSA GOOD APOLOGYLEAVE ROOM FOR THE VENGEANCE OF GODTHROW THE ROPE DOWN THE HOLEFORGIVENESS QUESTIONS & ANSWERS: HeadFORGIVENESS QUESTIONS & ANSWERS: Heart"DO I HAVE TO FORGIVE GOD?""DO I NEED TO FORGIVE MYSELF?"FALSE FORGIVENESS = NO PEACECHECKLIST: WHEN WE HAVE CONFLICTCHECKLIST: WHEN OTHERS HAVE CONFLICTSINS AND RESENTMENT LISTS: A TOOL"TIME-OUT!"WHY TAKE NOTES?"I JUST NEED TIME AND SPACE."HAVE I LOST THE JUDGMENT OF CHARITY?GENTLENESS-MEEKNESS ASSESSMENTPRAYERS FOR RESTORING THE JUDGMENT OF CHARITYMEDIATION TRIAGE - Three Session InstructionsMEDIATOR TRIAGE WORKSHEETSCASE STUDIESGLOSSARY FOR CASE STUDIESWORKSHOP PREPERATION INSTRUCTIONSADDITIONAL DISCUSSION QUESTIONSSELECT BIBLIOGRAPHY